3 Rules To Guide You When A Loved One ChangesMonday, November 09, 2015
Rule 1: Assess the reality of the change, and what it means.
Rule 2: Get to know the new them, because they're trying to as well.
Rule 3: Keep an open mind, and an open heart.
Explore the newness of their changes. Ask them about them, still show an interest even if what they do now isn't something you're used to. You could even try to take an interest in a new activity of theirs. Show them that despite their changes, they are still a loved one. Show them that their value doesn't lie in what you want of them. They are valuable because they exist. Show them that you are willing to let them grow and morph into whatever they choose to become as they get through the rigors of life.
This doesn't mean be a pushover if their changes are harmful. This means you can love at arms length if you need to. This means you can set your boundaries, and still love them. This means you will be open to change, because your day of personal change will also come. Embrace the newness and adventure of change. It is inevitable for us all. You just might gain some great experiences you wouldn't have otherwise.